The sum of zero is zero. People with whom you associate with, indicate just how successful you are in getting your goals accomplished.  If most of the people you associate with, have a knack for getting their individual goals met, it would reflect on  your ability to get your goals met and vice versa.

A teen client of mine, who once bragged about how many Facebook friends he had, couldn’t name one peer he was friends with who could tutor him in pre calculus.

“So much for community support,” is what I told him. I also notice that a number of my adult clients struggle with similar issues, they tend to associate themselves with others who are struggling with the same issues as themselves.

We all have personal power, unfortunately due to personal life experiences, some of us fail to recognize our personal power, and instead of resorting to personal empowering behaviors, such as educating ourselves to accomplish our goals, some of us resort to self destructive behaviors out of frustration. Self destructive behaviors which are amplified through our association with like minded individuals.

What type of people do you associate with? Are they often practicing their personal power to accomplish personal goals, or influence positive change in their world? Or are they using their personal power to be self destructive and destructive in their personal relationships with others?

If your answer is the latter, then you have to ask yourself, why you associate with such characters?

A hundred people in your life with no positive constructive qualities, equals zero positive influences in your life.

Ugo is a psychotherapist and life coach.