I believe in the principles of the law of attraction, although I have never been a fan of the Secret. While I found it principles to be based on truth, it came across as too superficial. The truth is that people change, for better or for worse, and this change is brought about the consequences created by their daily habits in an ever changing world.
If your habits don’t aid you in adapting to subtle and subsequently, pronounced changes in daily life, you will experience a regression in your reasoning skills, and your ability to cope with stress. This is because, over time with maladaptive habits, you will experience increased difficulty in getting your needs met. You will become increasingly more overwhelmed, anxious and perhaps depressed as your ability to get your needs met become more out of reach for you.
On the other hand, if your habits are more adaptive to subtle and pronounced changes in daily life, you will experience substantial maturity in your reasoning skills, and you will find yourself coping with stress with ease. This is because, over time with adaptive habits, you will experience improvement in your ability to get your needs met on a daily basis. You will experience more happiness and confidence within yourself as you become more adept at getting your needs met.
The foundation of the law of attraction, is to state your intent in regards to what you want, create a plan, and then follow through with said plan. Depending on how out of practice you are with getting your needs met, you will experience significant challenges in getting your needs met. Such challenges will bring out emotional pain in yourself. This is something, popular sources for learning about the law of attraction simply don’t touch on. As a matter of fact, whether or not you have an intent to make small or major changes in your life, you will experience significant discomfort. As I have mentioned in previous posts such as this one, the fundamental role of feelings is to alert you on whether things are going your way or otherwise. So during times you find yourself feeling upset, this is your mind’s way of bringing to your attention that a need is not being met and calling on you to change your mindset and subsequently your actions.
As it is human nature to minimize experiences with pain and maximize experiences with pleasure, most people resort to coping skills to help themselves cope with their upset feelings. The problem with these coping skills is that they do little to nothing to help the person adapt to changing times in other to get their needs met more effectively. Instead they help the person live in denial, which worsens his or her situation.
Going through the process of change, is often a challenging experience. Specifically, it’s the changing of one’s mindset that presents with the most challenges, after which the desired action becomes easy to engage in.
Sometimes when I present clients with a proposed wellness plan, they scoff. This is because the proposed plan seems so simple when read on paper. I have had some clients say that this is so simple, and something they can undertake on their own. Then I invite them to do so, and contact me to let me know how things are going.
The truth is, that the proposed plan is often easier said than done. It looks simple and straight forward, but what makes it challenging are old beliefs, attitudes and values held by the person who desires to change. In short, people get in their own way when it comes to change, and I help people get past that change.
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