If you struggle with social anxiety, it means future social interactions might provoke feelings of dread and panic within you. It also means that you likely struggle with feelings of anxiety and embarrassment due to an irrational fear of judgement and conflict.
Social anxiety causes people to become limited by what they can accomplish in their daily lives. After-all, our daily experiences from what we do for a living, to interactions with family and friends, involve dealing with other people. A difficulty in interacting with people is problematic and can get in your way of getting your basic and emotional needs met.
In this post, we are going to look at three reasons why assertiveness skills training can help with social anxiety.
Improve Your Self Confidence.
If you struggle with self-confidence, it means that you often dread conflicts with others. Having a healthy dose of self-confidence means that you have developed a healthy sense of who you are. Meaning that conflicts and disagreements with others do not challenge your sense of identity. Even if you conclude that you are in the wrong, you can make changes to your beliefs while keeping your sense of identity relatively intact.
Your improved confidence in any social situations, will come from a commitment towards exercising an unconditional acceptance of self. You will learn to see yourself as worthy of self-acceptance. You will also learn to see conflicts as a natural path of living and learn not to take them personally.
Improve Your Communication Skills.
As a therapist, I have come to witness a lot of people who struggle with social anxiety, confuse assertive communication with aggression. As a result, when they think about standing up for themselves, they often feel timid about the idea of having to be brash towards others.
With improved communication skills, you will learn to be direct and honest in all your communications. Clients are often surprised when they discover, how receptive people instinctively are towards this type of communication. They often report, feeling more respected by others, even during conflicts.
You will also learn to use your words to effectively diffuse tense and stressful situations you find yourself in.
Being Calm in Stressful Situations
With assertive skills, you will also learn to be calm and relaxed in situations that you previously found stressful. You will learn to be more empathetic towards others, which allows you to have more insight towards the behaviors of others during conflicts. This insight is what allows you to exercise calm.
You will also learn to exercise your influence in situations you find stressful, while remaining calm.
Ugo Uche is a psychotherapist and expert in anxiety and related disorders in Tucson Arizona. If you would like to learn more, you are welcome to call and book your first appointment or fill out my contact form and click Send.
Ugo also provides Online therapy for those who cannot travel to his office.