“You don’t need validation from anybody to solve your problems ”
Ⅰ. Your plan for success involves how someone in a position of authority is going to recognize your hard work and reward you.
Ⅱ. You feel cheated when you have not been recognized or rewarded for your achievements.
Ⅲ. You have no clear vision for where you want to be, or what you want to be doing with your life in the next five years.
During my Masters program, I worked as a caseworker at a juvenile prison. Everything I learned in class and from research, I put to practice the next day I worked. I had a vision of myself as a competent professional, who was knowledgeable and able to help most people who approached me for help. I wasn’t terribly concerned about finding employment, (granted I was already employed) I just wanted to be really good at what I did.
Ⅱ. Make a list of your own issues, you need to start addressing.
The standards of living is the same for everyone, no one is more responsible for your well being and that of your children (if you have any) than you. This might seem like a strange concept to some, but then again if you find this concept strange it may not entirely be your fault. Through mass media, there seems to be this push for people to adopt a cultural mindset that grown men and women shouldn’t be entirely responsible for their well being. Issues ranging from health care provision for a person’s family to educating one’s child seem to no longer be considered a person’s responsibility but that of the government at large. The truth is, your issues are your responsibilities and no one else’s. The good news, is that if you are able to read and comprehend this post, you are capable of coming up with answers to your problems.
Ⅲ. Start coming up with reasonable plans on how to begin addressing your identified issues.
To date the best approach I have found is to research someone who has experienced and successfully solved the same problems you are currently experiencing, such as finding love, building wealth, parenting, career, etc, and the list goes on. Granted while everyone is unique and you will seldom find the perfect out of the box approach, you can always work with a professional like myself to develop and implement the plan that works just right for you.
Ugo is a psychotherapist and owner of Road 2 Resolutions PLLC a professional counseling private practice.