Whether I am answering questions from an attorney during cross examination or most recently a reporter, I usually get that one question.
“How do you do that?” Here are some specific examples;
“How do you get the person to stop being verbally abusive when he becomes offended?”
“How do you help the chronic lethargic teen become motivated again?
“How do you help the long time smoker, quit smoking?”
The answer is three fold. First I get clients to accept themselves unconditionally, with positive regard. Secondly I get them to identify core beliefs that prevent them from solving their problems and thirdly, I help them adopt healthier and more realistic beliefs, which leads to the practice of healthier behaviors.
For more on my thoughts about changing behaviors, check out this video below.