Last week, reports broke out that Vester Lee Flanagan shot and killed two of his former co workers during a live broadcast, then he later committed suicide after a brief police chase. It has been further revealed that Vester released a manifesto, accompanied by a series of tweets in which he stated that he had received poor treatment by way of discrimination at the hands of Alison Parker and Adam Ward.
Assuming everything about this story is true, then it stands to reason that Alison, Adam and Vester, were victims of Vester’s flawed expectations regarding how he should be treated by others.
Contrary to popular belief, no one is entitled to be liked or loved by anyone other than themselves. This also extends to privileges, as no one is entitled to a job or treatment of prestige from others.
The Vester Lee shooting is a believable story, because from a psychological perspective it makes sense. It makes sense that Vester would harbor deep feelings of resentment and hate towards his coworkers when he felt that he was wrongly denied from what he believed was rightfully his; a job and a good relationship with his co workers.
Some people have characterized Vester as a mentally troubled man, and I would agree. However, I do believe that what made Vester a mentally troubled man, where his irrational beliefs of how he should have been treated. Most mental health issues are derived from our difficulty in coming to terms with the incongruence between our beliefs and our experiences. If our experiences contradict our beliefs, it is us who must make changes to our beliefs and not the world around us.
I do not support discrimination of any kind to anyone, but it happens regardless. From experience, I have found it empowering to accept people for who they are and how they feel towards me, without making any attempts to control the situation.
This has allowed me to attract people who appreciate me for who I am and whom I equally appreciate.
Change your thinking, change your life.