Perceived lack of power is the most dangerous state any human being can find themselves in. Particularly when it comes to adults. We all have power, power to influence change in our lives, as evidenced by the decisions we make everyday in our lives, from the food we eat to the clothes we wear. Our ability to think and do is what makes us powerful.
Lack of power in our world is an illusion, this illusion is bought into when people come to believe that their path to happiness lies to doing one specific thing, or taking one specific route in their lives. This leads to a bottle neck phenomenon where most people end up following a specific path in the pursuit of happiness with only a handful of them achieving any success. Not to get off track, but we live in a multidimensional universe, as explained in this previous post, this means that our choices are more abundant than we realize.
For most people who have bought into the message that they do not have the ability to influence their reality, chances are that they too have become caught up in the bottle neck phenomenon, which creates for them a consistency of lack of power in their world.
In the beginning of this post, I stated that for a human being to not recognize their power in this world is a dangerous state, the reason is because, a person who does not recognize his or her power, is most likely to overreact in an effort to gain some control in his or her world. Often times such an overreaction can be devastating. Just because a person does not recognize his power in the world, does not mean that his power is non existent.
Specific examples of people over reacting to their perceived lack of power would be, physical assault, verbal abuse, making false accusations against others and bringing about hurt and pain in someone’s life through some other miscellaneous actions. I have personally seen people set out to harm people out of anger, and also for a quest to regain a sense of control over their lives they thought they had lost. They ended up over reacting, and causing such damage, that most of the shock registered on their faces came from not realizing that they had the ability to influence so much change in the world around them, albeit a negative change. Unfortunately it was a bit too late, as the powers that be would always retaliate in kind, sometimes leading to a self fulfilling prophecy, were they would indeed lose a great deal of power they never realized that they had.
When I work with my anger management clients, I always inform them that they have power in this world, power which comes from within them. Once they come to believe this, they do what any normal person who recognizes their power would do, they use their powers to create their happiness.
Ugo is a psychotherapist and life coach.