In this video I discuss three cognitive tools a person who struggles with anxiety needs to learn in a therapeutic relationship. They are embracing fear, acceptance of life on life’s terms and practicing courage.
Fear is a survival mechanism, for worst case scenarios it alerts us to life threatening situation and to a lesser extent it alerts us when our ability to get our needs met becomes threatened. Our sense of fear is important information we need to embrace, as it provides us with crucial information we need towards taking care of ourselves. When we are resistant towards acknowledging our experiences of fear, we spend more time running from the experiencing fear than tackling the cause of the fear.
Anxiety has a lot to do with not being able to accept a lack of control over circumstances that influences a person’s life. People who struggle with anxiety have a tendency worry over things that could possibly go wrong in their lives. Learning to accept life’s possibilities as is, through cognitive strategies goes a long way towards achieving peace of mind. Another term for acceptance as it relates to anxiety is learning to accept life on life’s terms.
Practicing courage, means practicing the courage to change habits that don’t work for us. It is natural to experience resistance to change because as creatures of habit, we have a tendency to hold on to things that don’t work for us, mostly because we have convinced ourselves that they bring us comfort. Our habits are usually formed as a response to the narratives we have come to believe regarding how our lives should unfold and seldom as a response to our experiences with real life. Practicing courage, means letting go of our narratives, and re writing our personal stories based on our true experiences with life.
Ugo is a psychotherapist and a owner of Road 2 Resolutions PLLC, a professional counseling and life coaching practice.